http://youtu.be/7dGvzgvhwKs
Today we celebrated my nephews life. I have attached the video that was made in remembrance of Derek
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Thursday, November 24, 2011
November 13, 2011
It was a typical Saturday, got up early to go get coffee. I was talking to my cousin Melissa on the phone. Then my best friends husband called. I ignored his call, would call him after my conversation with Melissa. Well Corey called again and that is not like him. I knew something was wrong. Well there was, Derek my 25 year old nephew was in a car accident and he was air lifted to Harbor View in Seattle. I grabbed Lucky and we headed to the hospital. When we got there I was straight to ICU. They had no record of him. Derek had come in as a John Doe because they couldn't find any id on him. We went down stairs and finally found our extended family. My family was all crying their eyes out.
My nephew Derek & his fiance Tristan had been in a serious accident. They laid there for six hours before someone walking their dog had found them. Derek had suffered major head trauma, broken pelvis, and damaged lungs. Tristan had suffered a 8 inch gash on her head and her spleen was bleeding.
They finally got Derek out of surgery & moved us up to the ICU waiting area. Once they got us settled, we were told the doctor will be out to let us know how he was doing. What seemed like eternity and then the finally the doctor came out. Unfortunately what she had to tell us was not good. Derek suffered major head trauma, stroked out on his left sign of his brain and had no blood flow to that area. His mother asked if he was going to come out of this okay. But the doctor said I'm sorry to say this but there is to much damage for Derek to recover. My heart sank and broke as I was trying to help pull my sister off the floor. She started screaming and crying. She told her husband to bring her baby boy back to her!
We were all called back to the hospital very early in the a.m. on Sunday. The doctors said a decision had to be made regarding Derek's care. The final decision was made to take him off life support and donate his organs. We were all allowed to visit him Saturday & Sunday to say our good byes and just spend time with him. It was so very painful to see a young man that you have known all his life laying there on life support. His head was so swollen from the brain trauma.
During Derek's final moments all the people who loved and cared for him were in the room. It was soo painful and heart breaking to watch the people I love in so much pain. Once Derek passed they took him into the operating room to take his kidneys for donation. One went to UW & the other to a hospital in Idaho. Derek is living on in another people, which is what he would of wanted.
I guess I am writing about this is because I want young kids to stop thinking nothing is going to happen to you because it will. My best friend no longer has her baby boy. Do not drink & drive, Do not get high and drive, wear your seat belts. Call your parents or someone who loves you. One of my son's best friends was here for dinner tonight. He has a major drinking & drug problem. I didn't preach at him, but I did tell him that I don't want to have to bury him like I am my nephew.
RIP Derek Todd Phifer December 2, 1985 to November 13, 2011
My nephew Derek & his fiance Tristan had been in a serious accident. They laid there for six hours before someone walking their dog had found them. Derek had suffered major head trauma, broken pelvis, and damaged lungs. Tristan had suffered a 8 inch gash on her head and her spleen was bleeding.
They finally got Derek out of surgery & moved us up to the ICU waiting area. Once they got us settled, we were told the doctor will be out to let us know how he was doing. What seemed like eternity and then the finally the doctor came out. Unfortunately what she had to tell us was not good. Derek suffered major head trauma, stroked out on his left sign of his brain and had no blood flow to that area. His mother asked if he was going to come out of this okay. But the doctor said I'm sorry to say this but there is to much damage for Derek to recover. My heart sank and broke as I was trying to help pull my sister off the floor. She started screaming and crying. She told her husband to bring her baby boy back to her!
We were all called back to the hospital very early in the a.m. on Sunday. The doctors said a decision had to be made regarding Derek's care. The final decision was made to take him off life support and donate his organs. We were all allowed to visit him Saturday & Sunday to say our good byes and just spend time with him. It was so very painful to see a young man that you have known all his life laying there on life support. His head was so swollen from the brain trauma.
During Derek's final moments all the people who loved and cared for him were in the room. It was soo painful and heart breaking to watch the people I love in so much pain. Once Derek passed they took him into the operating room to take his kidneys for donation. One went to UW & the other to a hospital in Idaho. Derek is living on in another people, which is what he would of wanted.
I guess I am writing about this is because I want young kids to stop thinking nothing is going to happen to you because it will. My best friend no longer has her baby boy. Do not drink & drive, Do not get high and drive, wear your seat belts. Call your parents or someone who loves you. One of my son's best friends was here for dinner tonight. He has a major drinking & drug problem. I didn't preach at him, but I did tell him that I don't want to have to bury him like I am my nephew.
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Today
Lucky is 9 months clean and sober today on Thanksgiving. I have so much to be grateful for! I love this kid with everything that I have.
Saturday, October 29, 2011
Update
It's been a long time since I've been on here. Been going through lots of changes. Find myself single still. Started a new job at Guild Mortgage. Feels good to be back in the business after 5 years. Lucky has been clean almost 8 months now. He is living at home with me, most of the time I enjoy having him here.lol... He is working woooo hoooo! I still have moments that I miss Rob...but there's nothing that I can do about that. I have been dating off and on, which really stinks at my age. Enough for now, will be back soon :)
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Major Victory
Today God has blessed my son with a major victory. He got a full time job working for an excavating company. He's been feeling over whelmed about his money issues & not being able to find a job. His sponsor gave him glowing recommendation and he starts next week. I am so excited and proud of Lucky.
Another victory Lucky has had is being clean for 5 months. He's doing so well living up in Seattle. Staying away from his old friends. I'm feeling so blessed and thank god for all his blessing he has given my son & I
Another victory Lucky has had is being clean for 5 months. He's doing so well living up in Seattle. Staying away from his old friends. I'm feeling so blessed and thank god for all his blessing he has given my son & I
Sunday, July 10, 2011
I am an adult!!!!! Don't tell me who I should love!!!!!
Sorry I need to vent: The last few days I have been feeling sad because I miss someone who is very special to me. Lately people close to me keep telling me to move on...Why do you still love him? Do you love him or do you love the thought of him taking care of you! All of these statements make me so angry. I Love "R" with all my heart & soul. I do not need him to take care of me. I am perfectly capable of taking care of myself. I did before he was here and I will do it now.
Listen to my words people the last time I checked, I am a 41 year old grown woman who is capable of deciding who I love and don't love. This is my life not yours! If I have a chance to mend the relationship I had with "R" I'm going to do it. This relationship did not end just because of him. We both had our part in it failing. Right now I am giving him the space he needs to figure out his life. I know God brought us together for a reason. If its meant to be only time will tell. I pray that my wish comes true some day.
Please stop meddling in my life and worry about yourself. Thank You & God Bless
Listen to my words people the last time I checked, I am a 41 year old grown woman who is capable of deciding who I love and don't love. This is my life not yours! If I have a chance to mend the relationship I had with "R" I'm going to do it. This relationship did not end just because of him. We both had our part in it failing. Right now I am giving him the space he needs to figure out his life. I know God brought us together for a reason. If its meant to be only time will tell. I pray that my wish comes true some day.
Please stop meddling in my life and worry about yourself. Thank You & God Bless
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Life Moves On!
You can either move on with your life or dwell on things you can't change. But either way, life does move on, with or without you. When a relationship or something ends, look at it as being pushed out so you can be pushed up. It may not feel good right now knowing you’ve got to start all over again. It may seem unfair and frightening,... but just begin to realize there is a reason and season for everything. Great things, new things can happen if you can just hold on to your faith, positive attitude and self-determination to rise again. Sometimes a kick in the butt pushes us forward. Let’s move on from here.
~Lucera Galthikhor Alrmond~
~Lucera Galthikhor Alrmond~
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